From childhood we are being told what to do and what not to do, doing this can be beneficial or doing that can be harmful etc, in the result, we become circumspect. We can’t take decisions on our own and we always seek advice or permissions.
If a person had strict or overly demanding parents, abasing peers or moments which caused embarrassment, in his childhood, then it is sure that the fear is installed in his mind. Every time undertaking challenges, negative thoughts will come to his mind, as he grows up these negative thought will also grow and adds up in his sub-consciousness. He will be afraid of being humiliated again or repetition of unpleasant moments from past.
From this we can say that fear is basically a thought of danger, getting harmed or discomfiting. When a person is ruled by this fear of failure he often quit trying until he has been assured excellence in a certain task. He will fail in getting an excellent opportunity despite being eligible. In short, a person can never be an achiever unless he conquers his fear of failure. So to know the things necessary to avoid this fear of failure, read the complete article.
During your hard time always be an optimist rather than being a pessimist by taking your failure as a learning experience. Remember, when you are commanding on a skill or doing a project, failure is a necessary part. Learning requires exploration and creativity, you learn a lot from your failure and you find alternative ways to do the task.
Before taking a challenge prepare your mind not only for success but also for failure. Don’t think about embarrassment instead think that if you succeed that will be very good but if you won’t it will be a great learning experience and you will know that what further changing you need to make for improvement.
Have faith in Yourself
While undertaking a task, the first thing that came to our mind is that if we lose what other will say. And in case of failure, we feel shame on our selves. So this fear is directly connected to our self-esteem.
Don’t let your shame ruin your personality. Always believe in yourself, gather your courage and do your best. Think about the people who were once in this situation, you are not the one who is going through this; motivate yourself that you can do this in a better way than others.
Think about Worst-case scenario
Whenever you are panic over a situation, surrender yourself look at the possible worst case scenarios that can occur. This will help in accepting the disaster and you will find that it will not be as bad as you think; in a result, you’ll feel relaxed.
Think about alternative Plans
Having alternative plan can help you in getting more confident to move forward. Your fear is automatically minimized when you think that in case of failure you can do these things to achieve the target.
Stand by your Decision
Whenever you begin to fear failure, just remember one thing that if you won’t give yourself a chance you will regret the whole life. This horrible feeling of regret will stick to your mind and whenever you will lay on your bed the thoughts of ‘I should have’, ‘If only I’d’, and ‘I wish I’d’ will steal your sleep.
So be confident, start making decisions and once you make a decision stick to it no matter what hardships will come in the way.
Free your Mind
Just because you have thought of failure doesn’t mean that you will fail. You can’t predict the future, so it is possible that whatever you are thinking will not become true. Stop being prisoner of mind and come to reality. Free your mind from all thoughts, take a deep breath and focus on your goal.
Exercise to Relax
You can also do some exercise or yoga to relax your mind. Breathe in slowly and deeply, hold your breath for a moment and then exhale slowly while thinking ‘relax! Everything’s going to be okay’. Repeat this 5 to 10 times, concentrating on breathing. This exercise will help you in being calm minimizing fear.
I hope that this post will be helpful for you to Overcome the Failure. If you liked the post or have any query you can write it down in the comments section.